Carol's Column - THE EXTRA MILERS   (Articles below Starfish Story)

EXTRAMILERS:  Recepient of National Society of Newspaper Columnist's

Will Rogers' Humanitarian Award 2008

Ellen Goodman, Lifetime Achievement Award and James Rogers, Will Rogers' Great Grandson, who presented the Will Rogers' Humanitarian Award in June 2008 (New Orleans Conference of the National Society of Newspaper Columnists).  http://www.columnists.com (click on link to Will Rogers' Humanitarian Award)

Do something to make a difference in another person’s life!

Once upon a time there was a wise man that used to go to the ocean to do his writing. One day he

was walking along the shore. As he looked down the beach, he saw a human figure moving like

a dancer. He smiled to himself to think of someone dancing on the beach. So he began to walk

faster to catch up with this person. As he got closer he saw that it was a young woman and she

wasn’t dancing, but instead she was reaching down to the shore, picking up something and very

gently throwing it into the ocean. As he got even closer, he called out, “Good Morning, what are

you doing?” The young woman paused, looked up and replied, “Throwing starfish back into the

ocean.” He asked, “Why are you throwing starfish into the ocean?” She replied, “The sun is up

and the tide is going out. If I don’t throw them back in, they will die.” The man was intrigued and

stated, “But, young lady, don’t you realize that there are miles and miles of beach and starfish are

all along it. You can’t possibly make a difference!” She listened politely. Then bent down, picked

up another starfish and threw it back into the sea, past the breaking waves and said, “It made a

difference for that one.” We all have the ability to MAKE A DIFFERENCE

.      Author Unknown

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THE EXTRA MILERS® is a monthly newspaper column written about Southern Indiana people who go the EXTRA MILE to make a positive difference. I hope you enjoy some of the articles about these special people.  My favorite (and most personal) Extra Miler columns will always be featured at the top (just below the most current column).

Current Extra Miler(s):

Becky Boman placed the Extra Miler Pin on Pam Strong-Frymire - both are Southern Indiana Extra Milers

The Extra Milers - Big Sisters Making A Difference For Children

By Carol A. Dawson - Column #46 - August 2008

Pam Strong-Frymire is quick to pass credit elsewhere for her work as a Southern Indiana Extra Miler.  She gets her inspiration from her faith, “I have a call to serve the Lord and all that I do is done in an attempt to be obedient.”  Pam adds, “The path chosen for me has certainly been exciting!” 

Pam has been the Communication Director and a leader for Christian Academy in New Albany, Indiana since the doors were originally opened as Northside Christian Academy.  Pam’s recent “retirement” from the school coincided with the need to make time to pursue other interests. After many years working for the school and enjoying the environment she states, “This is just one of those times when you know it is time to move on.”  Pam quickly adds, “I have absolutely no doubt the future of the school is in excellent hands.”   

Optimistic and upbeat, Pam survived some difficult years in the past – her husband passed away thirteen years ago and she was left to raise their two young sons, Morgan and Evan.  She is quick to note that she didn’t raise and nurture the boys on her own.  They had a community of positive role models for which she is sincerely grateful.

Pam has also survived breast cancer and much of her decision to retire stems from her desire to focus some of her extra time and energy to study health and wellness.  It is remarkable that Pam could even have excess energy or time, as she keeps busy with multiple activities, including church ministries, her family, and most recently, Big Brothers Big Sisters (BB/BS). 

Pam’s involvement with BB/BS started with a ministry visit to a prison where she met an incarcerated woman who showed her a photo of her two young daughters.  She asked that her daughters, Cheyene and Sydney receive prayers for their happiness and well being.  Pam began praying for the girls and thinking of how she could help.  She knew of a new BB/BS program started for the children of women in prison and hoped to get the girls enrolled.   

Initially Pam didn’t anticipate being a Big Sister; however, that changed when her son’s girlfriend, Becky Boman, asked if she could assist Pam in her ministries. The timing of Becky’s request was a significant sign to Pam and she knew life would once again be taking her on another exciting journey.  She and Becky have been Big Sisters to Cheyene and Sydney for nearly two years. 

When the duo met their little sisters they became mentors and quick friends.  The four-some have attended a concert, birthday parties, scrap booking events, Waterfront Park, the backside of Churchill Downs, and more.  Pam and Becky have also attended school activities in support of the girls. 

At a recent party in Pam’s home to celebrate a family birthday, eight year old Sydney stated, “This is so exciting…it is the first birthday party I’ve ever been to…”  As she tells the story, Pam hesitated, seemingly lost in the memory.  She then added, “These girls are thrilled to be experiencing things many of us take for granted.”

It didn’t take a long conversation with Pam to realize there was another Extra Miler to be recognized this month.  When asked what motivates her to work with the BB/BS program, Becky responded, “I came from a troubled family and I’m determined to do all I can to help children who may be experiencing a similar situation.” 

Becky, a bright eyed and charming young woman, attends Ivy Technical Community College and aspires to be a Pediatric Nurse.  Her busy schedule leaves no time for television or acting as a couch cover as she works part time and volunteers for Kosair Hospital, Floyd Memorial Hospital, BB/BS and her church, Northside Christian. 

Becky spoke of her future with the Strong-Frymire family with a face-hugging smile, and commented, “Whatever I do, it will include helping children…it breaks my heart to see them suffer.”  For Becky, sharing is one of the best remedies for poverty and she has especially enjoyed sharing her life with Cheyene and Sydney.     

Both Pam and Becky are human power-packs, looking for signs of how they can continue passing along on their joy for life.  Pam ended our interview with one of her favorite quotes, “Little boys and girls learn to be big men and women in the presence of big men and women who care about little boys and girls.”  Because these two women have made a significant difference in the lives of the people in our community, we honor them as our Extra Milers. 

Thank you, Becky and Pam, for being our August Southern Indiana Extra Milers. 

KINDNESS TIP OF THE MONTH:  Pam and Becky ask that we all open our eyes to see the children in our community.  There are so many who need your love and attention.  If you can give just four hours a month, contact the Big Brothers Big Sisters and ask how you can help.  BB/BS provides guidance and even free tickets to special events in the community to assist the mentoring process.  Local contact information is:  BB/BS of Kentuckiana, Inc.
1519 Gardiner Lane, Suite B, Louisville, KY 40218 / www.bbbsky.org -  Phone:  (502) 587-0494  (Children are waiting – call today.)

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The next two Extra Milers, Jay and Joni, are no longer with us, but they will live forever in the hearts of those they touched with their spirit of love.  

with admiration and love, 

Carol

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THE EXTRA MILERS  -Column #20- LOVING FRIEND, Jay Crutcher - In Memory
By Carol Dawson

We were put on this planet to care for one another and that is what I try to do.
Jay Crutcher

Jay (Jay-bird) Crutcher came into my life one year ago this month while featuring him as one of our Extra Milers. He invited me into his life with his arms wide open in loving friendship, often using the phrase, “You mean the world to me.” Early in our friendship, I often wondered how I could mean the world to someone who knew me for such a short time. In the following months Jay provided the answer.

With a broken heart, I tell you Jay Crutcher passed away last week after an aneurysm destroyed all brain activity. Jay lived in Louisville and was the first non-Southern Indiana resident Extra Miler. I couldn’t resist…he was a classic do-gooder. Jay lived life serving others, despite having the very debilitating disease, Osteo Imperfecta (OI). He believed walking is over-rated, instead believing the heart and mind should be the focal points in our lives.

Jay was at church when his body failed him one last time. He soon went into a coma and never came out. I stood by Jay’s bed in intensive care, talking to his father, Jack Crutcher, and grandmother, Aileen Crutcher, about the times life failed him and the times he was the happiest. As we watched Jay’s unresponsive body, Jack, a soft spoken man, began talking about organ donation. My eyes rose to see the anguish of this loving father. Still, it was obvious that he realized something good could come of this tragic loss. Jay would have been proud to know he saved the lives of several people through his death. It seems a bit ironic really…that this young man who very much wanted to be feel needed … concluded his life by giving the hope of new life to people he had never met.

To each person given life or sight through Jay’s organ and cornea donations, may his body give you strength and dignity. To the person who received Jay’s heart – you are the most blessed of all – for his small body held one of the largest hearts imaginable. Jay’s capacity to love was limitless. Truly there wasn’t anything he wouldn’t do to make another person feel happy and safe.

Jay often felt he was not enough…enough of a friend…enough of a student…enough of a musician…enough of a regular-guy. His body limited participation in high school activities and he often felt ostracized from peers. Still, his family speaks little of the times when Jay’s heart was broken by uncaring or unknowing individuals but more of his celebration of life. Jay sought friends who would care about and love him unconditionally. He offered absolute love and friendship in return.

His relationships in Southern Indiana began as Jay became intrigued with the thought that stronger muscles might provide the support he needed for fragile bones (he quit counting at 200 breaks). Angie Maxwell (and her Jazzercise instructors) became his trainers and friends. Jay felt immediate inclusion. Each week, he took a Tarc van to his physical exercise class, quickly becoming part of Angie’s family. Angie nominated Jay as an Extra Miler.

Jay and I quickly became friends. A few months ago Jay began asking about my church affiliation and soon he was attending First Christian Church (FCC) with my family. Within a few weeks, he joined FCC and soon thereafter Jay was baptized. He was embraced by the FCC community and his joy was evident.

In Southern Indiana, Jay found the inclusion he was looking for his entire life…he found unconditional love. As I reflect upon the words unconditional love, I realize that I failed to verbally express how much Jay’s friendship truly meant to me. Because I failed to do this adequately while he was alive, it is with a heavy heart and many tears of sorrow that I do so now.

Jay, I love you for the kindness you gave to this world. I love you for your ability to forgive all of life’s failures. I love you for teaching me that we all have more to give…even when we think we have given enough. I love you for the joy you gave to those around you. I love you for enduring the pain of feeling excluded from so much of life and yet remaining a positive influence and tremendous inspiration. Jay-bird Crutcher, your friendship truly meant the world to me. Now I understand.

Kindness Tip of the Month: If there is a friend in your life who you value and love, let them know. It has been said that truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget. When you find that truly great friend, let him or her know they will always be in your heart.

Carol A. Dawson is a resident of Jeffersonville and owner of EEO GUIDANCE, Inc . If you have seen or been a part of an act of kindness or know an EXTRA MILER, let us know about it. To submit a story or act of kindness, contact Carol via email: Extra.Milers@newsandtribune.com or send mail to: THE EXTRA MILERS, The Evening News, Attn: Carol Dawson, 221 Spring Street Jeffersonville, IN 47130-3340.

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THE EXTRA MILERS - Column #14

Carol A. Dawson

DANCING WITH JONI STOCKDALE (in memory)

“To touch the soul of another human being is to walk on holy ground.” Covey, Stephen

She had just won a gold medal for her bowling in the Special Olympics and as her father pushed her wheelchair down the church isle, the minister and congregation expressed their admiration. That Sunday several years ago was my first time to meet Joni. She was born in 1966 to Virgil and Judy Stockdale and for the next 39 years they loved and cared for their beautiful daughter.

What Joni Stockdale’s body couldn’t provide, her mind did. Cerebral Palsy restricted Joni’s movement and often made it difficult for her to verbalize her thoughts. However, when you spoke to Joni there was no doubting her joy in communication. She expressed herself best through her smile. Joni’s face popping smile and personality easily pulled friends into her life. She enjoyed teasing and laughter as much as anyone I have ever known. She was a remarkable young woman.

With great sadness, I tell you that Joni passed away in her sleep this past week. At her funeral, her pastor, Reverend Bruce Barkhauer noted, “Joni shared a special joy with everyone who knew her. Bill Scott used to greet her by gently kicking her chair to get her attention. Her Uncle Frank Applegate used to rub her head for good luck. She found such happiness in these and so many other similar relationships.” After dressing for church in the same colors several weeks in a row, Joni and I began teasing that we had a mental connection. Ironically, after noting our color connection, we never matched our colors again. Our personal joke grew from there and I found myself drawn to her each week. Relationships are what gives us depth and meaning to our lives, and Joni Stockdale had both depth and meaning in her life. Her closest relationships were with her family – those who never considered loving or caring for her to be a burden; instead, finding Joni to be their inspiration.

When Joni was born, the doctors stated she would probably not live past adolescence; however, she and her family would not hear of it. Joni had special wishes and desires for her future. Every birthday and Christmas she told her family of her wish to be able to walk. Joni Stockdale may not have been granted her wish during her time with us, but wishes and prayers are often answered in ways we may not be able to see or fully understand. Reverend Barkhauer said, “Those of us who knew and loved Joni, know that Joni is not just walking, but she is dancing.” Joni is surely singing clearly and dancing with eagle’s wings. Her human connectedness was always in her relationships in the lives of those around her – relationships that were most precious and holy. For giving so freely of herself and her love, Joni was an Extra Miler.

Joni’s family was named the Special Olympics Clark County Family of the Year and Region 11 Family of the Year. They hope to travel later this year to Indianapolis to be considered as the Special Olympics Family of the Year for Indiana . I cannot imagine a family more deserving of this honor. Albeit bittersweet, this would be a most fitting honor for the Stockdale family. Several months ago, I spoke to Virgil Stockdale about interviewing him to feature his family as Extra Milers. He was clearly baffled by my offer and after thinking about it briefly he said that he wasn’t sure why I would consider his family to be anything extraordinary. He promptly provided the name of another couple he thought would be better suited for the honor. Extraordinary indeed…when many families would have given up – the Stockdales persevered, when many would have been drained from the emotional and physical toll – the Stockdales found strength, and when many would have found sadness, the Stockdale’s found joy and love. For giving so freely of yourselves not only to Joni, but to others as well, Virgil, Judy, and family…never doubt the fact that you are truly extraordinary Extra Milers. Thank you for being role models for unconditional love.

Kindness Tip of the Month:

Contact any of your local organizations who work with individuals with disabilities. Ask them what you can do to help. Anyone can spare at least one or two days a year to volunteer. When you do, take along your children, grandchildren, nieces or nephews to help. You will be giving them a special gift by allowing them to see first hand how we are all have the same heart, each with something special to offer others. While there are many worthy organizations, listed below are a couple of agencies to get you started:

Special Olympics Indiana

6100 West 96 th Street, Suite 27D

Indianapolis , IN 46278

Ph: 317-328-2000 or 1-800-742-0612

Email: information@soindiana.org

Indiana Vocational Rehabilitation Services
1452 Vaxter Avenue
P. O. Box 2517
Clarksville , IN 47131-2517
812-288-8261
Toll Free: 1-877-228-1967
Voice/TDD: 812-288-8261

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After the storm - first day back - - and now, three years later. Joe and Irma Pazzuto, St. Bernard Parish, LA.

The Extra Miler - Part I    - JULY 2008 - Column Number 44   

By Carol A. Dawson

This is part I of a two-part Extra Miler, based on a trip to New Orleans

The good people of New Orleans send Southern Indiana this message:  Please don’t forget about us, and don’t think of us as lazy people.  My journey to understanding why the people of New Orleans want us to know these things began at the Memphis airport. 

My husband accompanied me on a recent trip to New Orleans for a National Society of Newspaper Columnist convention.  With fear of impending starvation on the Memphis airport tarmac, we headed to the snack area before our flight.  There was no table open; however, a brawny man with a New Orleans/New York accent invited us to join him as he ate lunch with his wife. 

Joe and Irma Pizzuto were heading home to New Orleans and I asked, “Did Katrina seriously affect you and your family?” I would find out in the next four days just how seriously affected everyone in the New Orleans area was by the storm and how it would forever change the landscape of their lives. 

The Pizzutos grew up in St. Bernard Parish, a community southeast of New Orleans.  Joe and Irma planned to live out their retirement years in the house where they raised their family. They couldn’t have imagined that within weeks after Joe’s retirement from the railroad business, their lives would change so drastically. 

Katrina flooded 100% of St. Bernard Parish, a thriving and hard-working community of 67,000. Virtually every home and business was declared uninhabitable.    Everything was wiped out – homes, schools, businesses, parks, and restaurants.  With their homes, possessions were lost – antiques, financial papers, precious photo albums, clothes, yearbooks, and boxes full of mementos of their lives. 

Jobs were lost, family was scattered across the country, and the neighbors and friends they grew up with were gone.  Over 200 resident of the Parish lost their lives in the flood.  Storms were fairly typical to the residents in the New Orleans area, but nobody could have predicted Katrina’s all inclusive destruction. 

Joe and Irma thought the worst was over with the storm; however, there was yet more heartbreaking news.  Our conversation spilled into the gate waiting area as Irma, a petite woman with an easy smile, spoke of their greatest loss. 

Irma spoke through tear filled eyes as Joe slumped back into the chair, quietly, “Joe’s mother was in the nursing home that didn’t evacuate.”  She paused, trying to hold back her emotion, “She was bedridden and we had been told she would be evacuated.”   Joe moved forward and added, “We lost her along with 34 other patients and it took months to find and identify her.” He added, “This put everything else into perspective.” 

“We didn’t just lose our homes, we lost so much more – we lost our family – our friends -our entire community and way of life.”  Irma explained.  It has been three years since the Katrina disaster and the pain is still obvious.  Joe and Irma talked about how important it was for them to “come home.” 

As soon as the government allowed, Joe and Irma Pizzuto began making trips to what was left of their house.  They spoke of returning to find everything dead – no trees, no grass, and no birds.  Determined to make their place a home again, Joe eventually rebuilt and then started on his daughter’s home down the street. 

This comeback has not been an easy task.   Few of the Pizzuto’s neighbors and businesses have returned.  Flood insurance wasn’t thought to be needed in their area and there was little government support for individual families; therefore rebuilding has been slow. 

There is still no hospital, and there are only a few schools now open in this once thriving Parish.  As a sign of the St. Bernard’s revitalization, their only high school had a sign out front encouraging residents to drop by for a car wash fund raiser. 

They yearn for “Pre-Katrina” when every lot had a home and children laughed and played throughout their neighborhood.  So they came back.  They came back because this is their home – their love for their community is firmly grounded deep in their hearts and there isn’t wind or rain strong enough to steal that away. 

Joe and Irma set an example for Southern Indiana and the rest of America by keeping their faith during the most difficult of times and showing great fortitude to rebuild their lives and their community.  They, along with all who are rebuilding, are Extra Milers for St. Bernard Parish and for Southern Indiana.    

Kindness Tip of the Month: Everyone needs to be prepared for an emergency.  Imagine if you only had 15 minutes (or less) to leave your home before everything was blown or washed away.  What would you take…what would you lose?  What papers in your home are the most important?  Do you always keep half a tank of gas in your vehicles for evacuation (all businesses may be closed)?  Schedule an hour this week to check out this web site for easy step-by-step instructions on how to be prepared:  www.72hours.org

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The Extra Miler - Part I    - JULY 2008 - Column Number 45 

By Carol A. Dawson

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New Orleans:  Haunted by the X

I was eager to see the city of New Orleans for the first time since Katrina, and the National Society of Newspaper Columnists annual conference set up the ideal opportunity.  It was good to see the heart of the city looking pristine and playing the role of host so graciously in less than three years after the catastrophy. 

It was an easy task for the conference attendees to absorb the spirit of the French Quarter and see the great city flourishing once again.  Spirits were high and humorous one-liners flowed easily…until Saturday.  The columnists decelerated during our tour through the sections of New Orleans and surrounding Parishes hit the hardest by Katrina.  Almost on cue, the day became dark and rain began to fall as the buses turned into the first of several devastated areas. 

Tears went into auto-pilot as past television images of Katrina collided with the current state of the neighborhoods.  As we rolled through streets of concrete slabs, destroyed homes and vacant lots, I imagined these communities must have looked much like Southern Indiana before the storm…before Katrina.  Despite the efforts of thousands of Extra Milers, many areas still resemble a war-torn city in a third world country.

I will forever be haunted by the large brightly painted Xs still on many of the houses.  These symbols meant the houses had been checked by the National Guard.  In the upper portion of the X was the date (usually a couple of weeks after Katrina), to one side was the Guard unit acronym and at the bottom was the number of deceased.  Some homes were marked with the words, “Dog,” or “Cat” painted near the X in bold letters to indicate pets were lost in these homes. 

It was similar images from August 2005 that prompted me (and my husband, Ken) to arrive a day early to work with Animal Rescue New Orleans (ARNO). The Executive Director, Charlotte Bass Lilly, offered pick up and delivery for our day with the ARNO “beautiful animals.” 

As we journeyed to the ARNO site, Charlotte told of the people and pets that didn’t make it to safety during Katrina.  She told stories of owners who were not given the option to take their beloved pets to safety – chronicles of pain and loss.  After several stories, she sighed and made a quick thought transition.  “Enough of that…there are so many stories of hope and love you need to hear,” Charlotte said. 

During our day with ARNO, tales of perseverance and strong-will flowed from the workers.  We heard stories of ARNO purchasing boats after the storm, to look for abandoned pets.  The National Guard would recover individuals off roofs, forcing owners to leave their pets behind.  As often as possible, ARNO volunteers swept in to rescue the frightened animals. 

Stories flowed of pets swimming for miles to safety and then months later being reunited with their owners. Even now – three years after the storm, families are being reunited with their pets. 

Charlotte talked about a despondent elderly woman who lost everything to the flood, including her dog.  The woman had become despondent, with no will to live.  Months later she saw her dog in an ARNO photograph.  When the two best friends were reunited, she said it was a miracle her dog made it through the storm and if he could make it, she could also.   

ARNO provides a special place until the animals of New Orleans can find a home.  Robin Beaulieu, ARNO Rescue Director said, “We like to refer to ARNO as an animal lodge; a safe refuge after the storm.” 

The New Orleans' animals at ARNO appear happy, as teams of volunteers arrive daily.  Puppies play in wading pools while cages are cleaned, excited dogs play fetch after they are walked several times a day, and cats are gently held and snuggled in the warmth of blankets and sheets.  Despite the noise level from volunteers and attention demanding dogs, I felt a sense of calm in the middle of the chaos. While I know they are still not home; the animals are nourished, healed, and loved in this place known as the Animal Lodge. 

Kindness Tip of the Month:  Do not forget the people or the animals of New Orleans.  The rebuilding progress has come through personal sweat, along with aid from Extra Milers.  There are many volunteer groups to contact if you wish to assist in the rebuilding of New Orleans and the surrounding community.  Go to: 

Animal Rescue New Orleans: www.animalrescueneworleans.org 

Habitat for Humanity:  www.habitat-nola.org

Community Center of St. Bernard:  www.ccstb.org/

The St. Bernard Project:  www.stbernardproject.org/

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L to R:  Dana Nieman, Susan Gilmore, Regina DeCaro, and Andi Hannah

The Extra Miler   - JUNE 2008 - Column Number 43            

Women Helping Southern Indiana Beat the Habit

By Carol A. Dawson

When it comes to bringing values to life –  to doing the good, right, and appropriate thing…we're always working at it, we're never totally there, and the challenge starts
all over again with each new tomorrow. --  Eric Harvey and Steve Ventura

Our society discusses the diversity of generations ad infinitum; however, some things just do not change from one generation to the next.  With each new set of wee little ones, we idealistically believe they will become more progressive thinkers than ourselves.  We then feel helpless as we observe our future citizens emulate those behaviors we would prefer they shun. 

One nasty habit many pass on to our young adults is cigarette smoking.   In walk our June  Extra Milers:  Andrea Hannah, Regina DeCaro, Dana Nieman, and Susan Gilmore.  These women have no intention of silently watching our young adults take up this addiction.  They are each actively working with the Clark County Tobacco Prevention and Cessation Coalition (CCTPCC) to ensure our children (and adults) have the information and tools they need to make intelligent decisions about smoking and their health.   

Susan, Dana, Regina, and Andrea work tirelessly to get the facts out about the dangers of cigarette smoking and second hand smoke.  They do this, despite the negative responses they often receive while converting their passion into action. 

A few weeks ago, I attended an event on the Star of Louisville which was organized by these Extra Milers.  The event, Influence:  Women’s Toxic Relationship with Tobacco, sponsored by the CCTPCC, was well attended by a diverse group of women.  Those attending learned about special campaigns by the tobacco companies focused on attracting our young women as new smokers.   Come on…jewelry in cigarette cartons?!?

Andrea (Andi) Hannah, a retired RN, is the CCTPCC Coordinator.  The CCTPCC is tasked as being the local source for tobacco education, cessation services, youth prevention, and tobacco-free policy advocacy.  When Andi was asked why she has taken on such a heavy task, she replied, “My passion for this work developed within this job, as I learned about the breadth of the impact of tobacco.” 

Regina DeCaro, Manager for the CMH Lois Kratz Wellness Center, assisted with the event, but has not always been a healthy woman.  Regina had personal reasons for her involvement, “I started smoking when I was a teenager and was up to 2-3 packs a day at age 29 – and then I met Tony DeCaro.”  Regina sighs then quickly adds, “Realizing I wanted a long and happy life with Tony, I knew the cigarettes needed to go.”  Regina’s story has a happy ending.  She quit smoking 17 years ago – she lost the cigarettes but kept the man of her dreams.

Dana Nieman, Program Assistant for CCTPCC, was looking for a position that made a positive difference in lives and believes she found it.  Dana said, “By far, my favorite part of this job is helping people to quit tobacco.”  She believes most smokers would prefer to quit; however, are often unsuccessful without assistance.  Dana explains, ”Sometimes people need is a little reassurance they can succeed and some suggestions regarding how to make simple changes that give them more control over their addiction to nicotine.”  

Susan Gilmore, Marketing and PR Specialist for Clark Memorial Hospital (CMH), was also directly involved in planning the Influence event, “The evening was a great opportunity to educate women in our community on bringing about healthy smoking cessation and prevention changes in their spheres of influence.”  Susan felt the evening was a success. 

The Influence event included several local women who were asked to discuss how cigarettes have affected their lives.  Tammy Bratcher told the group she started smoking as a 9 year old child.  She and her husband, Kevin, attended smoking cessation classes organized by the CCTPCC and both quit – forever.  At the end of the program a young female server asked for information to stop smoking.  She explained that she heard her own life story when Bratcher spoke, adding that she started smoking as a 10 year old child.  The event made an immediate impact. 

I was also a speaker that night, reflecting on how cigarettes have affected my personal life – my beloved father passed away from lung cancer (a lifelong smoker), my mother, a non-smoker who inhaled second-hand smoke most of her life, now has the early stages of Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD), and Jeff, my 22 year old son, is trying to quit (his efforts are making his mother proud).  As I spoke of the needless pain this habit has caused so many, I began to cry.  Andi touched my shoulder and whispered, “Go on, it doesn’t matter – people need to see the pain.”   

Andi, Dana, Regina, and Susan…thank you for working to bring about value to so many lives and for being Southern Indiana Extra Milers. 

KINDNESS TIP OF THE MONTH:  The Surgeon General of the United States concludes that there is no level of safe exposure to secondhand smoke since there are immediate adverse health effects associated with exposure, even for otherwise healthy adults and children.  So what can you do about it? Here are some suggestions from the CCTPCC:

*Talk to your elected officials about the need to protect all residents and workers in your city or town from secondhand smoke. 

*Talk to business owners and managers and ask them to go smoke-free.  Most are willing to consider the possibility of going smoke-free if they know they are in danger of losing your business - and if you never say anything they will not know!

*Start talking to your young children about not smoking – it is never too early to plant the seed. 

For more information about how to quit smoking, contact the CCTPCC  at 812-283-2649.

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L-R Kate Merchant, Clara Smith - volunteer, Doug Feuerhelm, Phyllis Wilkins,

Mary Lou Densford

The Extra Miler   - May 2008 - Column Number 42             

By:  Carol A. Dawson

"I learned that it is the weak who are cruel, and that gentleness is to be expected only from the strong.”  Leo Rosten

Think of somebody in your life who is a constant force of goodness…a person who possesses a quiet strength…a person who you can always rely upon… someone who can be trusted with everything you value most in life.   If you are fortunate, the face of a friend or family member who fits this description will immediately come to mind.  The Clark County Chapter of the American Red Cross (ARC) has just such a friend and volunteer working with their agency, Doug Feuerhelm, and he is recognized as our Southern Indiana Extra Miler for May. 

Phyllis Wilkins, the American Red Cross Executive Director for Clark County, nominated Doug as an Extra Miler, stating, “Doug originally came to us after his retirement from UPS as a financial auditor and signed up to assist with office/clerical work; however, he quickly became so much more!”   The employees at the ARC have learned they can depend on Doug for a variety of professional duties, from accounting to creating their online class catalog. 

Kate Merchant, ARC’s Program Director for Safety and Health, is a true Doug Feuerhelm fan.  When asked to describe our Extra Miler, Kate responded, “Doug has assumed the majority of the in-house accounting activities for the ARC and his expertise is invaluable.”  Kate adds, “Doug not only works his fingers to the bone, he is a great co-worker who never has a harsh word for anybody.” 

Doug has been a volunteer for the ARC for three years. Initially, Phyllis thought he would be volunteering a few hours a week.  She couldn’t have been more wrong.  Doug’s dedication to the ARC and their needs has him working at least 3 or 4 hours every day.  He typically begins his day at 8:30 AM and will stay until the job is done, which may be a full 8 hours or longer. 

Doug is married to Jean and they have two daughters, Merrilee Feuerhelm and Shannon Miller.  He is known around the ARC office as having several great loves:  family, church, classic cars, music, dogs, and cheesecake.  Doug combines a couple of those passions by driving to his daughter’s home in Louisville every day and walking her dogs, making him a devoted puppy Grandpa.

There is no doubt the significant impact this Extra Miler had made with everyone who works or volunteers with the ARC.  Phyllis states, “Doug has impacted the Red Cross through his generosity, his faithfulness, honesty, and his frugality, when our resources are very low…he looks to always do what is best for the ARC and the community we serve.”   

Kate agrees, “We call Doug our “Big Dog,” because he is our go-to man for so many things.”  She adds, “His generosity, both with his time and also as a financial supporter, is beyond compare…he has made our chapter a better place and our people are better for having worked with him.” 

Positive words abound when co-workers describe Doug – cheerful, trustworthy, dedicated, respectful, kind and intelligent.  He has become the exemplary volunteer for the Red Cross.

As if all these adjectives were not enough to describe our Extra Miler, in August 2005 during the Katrina Hurricane disaster, Doug took his duties to yet another level.  He was already working long volunteer hours assisting with the massive amount of paperwork at hand for the ARC.  In the midst of recruiting volunteers to help with the clean up efforts, Doug offered to spend three weeks helping in New Orleans.  Although he was sincerely missed by the local chapter, they knew Doug’s time would be invaluable to the people who were devastated by Katrina.   

Phyllis closed our interview with this comment, “I know every other non-profit agency official who reads this column is going to be envious that we have the “ultimate volunteer,” but my wish is that they be blessed with their own “Doug.”  Phyllis reflects for a moment and adds, “Don’t ever miss an opportunity to say thank you to those volunteers – each and every day.” 

Thank you, Doug Feuerhelm, for being a good citizen, the ultimate volunteer, and a Southern Indiana Extra Miler. 

Kindness Tip of the Month:   For the next few months, the Kindness Tip will relate to Southern Indiana’s support for our troops.  The Blue Star Mothers recently discovered a local non-profit (Cedar Ridge Camp, Inc.), who is raising money to provide a summer camp experience for children of military parents who are currently deployed.  If you or your business would like to send a child to Camp Hope (cost is $350 per child), or if you would like to collect items (from the military wish list) and letters/cards at your church or place of business, contact the Blue Star Mothers through Vanessa Coulter at 502-572-5914 or email inbluestarmom@insightbb.com.

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Vanessa and Trish - Extra Milers                          Prayer Vigil Committee Carol/Judge

                                                                            Jacobi/Vanessa/Trish (after a long day)

The Extra Miler(s)  Blue Star Mothers Going The Extra Mile For Our Troops April 2008  - Column Number 41:

By:  Carol A. Dawson

"Each time a person stands for an ideal or acts to improve the lot of others, that person sends forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring those ripples build a current which can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance."  Robert F. Kennedy

In an email from Jerry Jacobi, the above quote was used to describe our two Extra Milers this month.  Jacobi continued, "When I saw Vanessa (Coulter) and Trish (Williams) clutching their candles to shield the tiny flames from the wind, I realized why the Prayer Vigil was important to the community.”  He continued, “By standing for an ideal and working to improve the lot of others, these Blue Star Mothers sent forth a tiny ripple of hope referred to in Robert Kennedy's 1966 speech.” 

Vanessa and Trish are Blue Star Mothers. Vanessa is a two Blue Star Mother and Trish is a three Blue Star Mother.  Each star represents children who currently serve or have honorably served in the military.  Their mission is to promote patriotism throughout the country.

On March 21, Vanessa and Trish certainly succeeded in promoting patriotism by coordinating activities and working 17 straight hours disseminating support information at the Jeffersonville Wall of Honor (320 E. Market), collecting donations, and honoring the men and women who serve in the military. The day culminated in a powerful Prayer Vigil, led by Rev. Bruce Barkhauer, with the intent of encouraging Southern Indiana to support our deployed and returning troops throughout the year, not just during the holidays.   Vanessa, the Southern Indiana Blue Star Mothers President, dreamed of this day for two years – imagining the impact it would have in our community. 

Southern Indiana citizens responded throughout the day by honking, waving, and giving the thumbs-up.  Several men stopped by to talk about previous wars and Don Herrold, Chaplain of VFW Post #1832, stopped by to offer flags – military flags and several U.S. flags to be placed on the Wall of Honor.  Herrold brought the flags and gently tied each pole to the wall with care, stating, “It’s really windy today and I don’t want any of them to touch the ground.”  His respect was obvious. 

Despite medical concerns which should have prohibited Vanessa from standing throughout the day, she stood anyway.  All who walked up to the table were greeted with a smile and a hand shake.  If the person was military (or had a military background), they received a heartfelt thank you from both Vanessa and Trish, sometimes served with a loving bear-hug. 

The activities and Prayer Vigil also impacted the military families. Several pregnant wives visited the Wall site.  One young woman appeared tentative as she walked up with her mother and young son.  She indicated her baby was due in a couple of months and when asked when her husband would be returning, her face became filled with concern as she replied, “My husband will be home when out baby is about 7 months old.”  She had come to the Wall of Honor to feel a connection to the community and a connection to her husband so very far away.  She held her candle and prayed as so many did that windy night – for the safe return of her loved one. 

Vanessa and Trish asked families to leave personal mementos at the Wall of Honor for public viewing. Many of those who came to pray with the community also walked up the small hill to place photos, mementos, and yellow ribbons on the blue stars hanging on the wall.  Later, I started reading some of the sentiments written on the yellow ribbons, but quickly found them to be too emotional – too painful – too personal.  Since the vigil, the Wall of Honor has become a special place for military personnel and their families. 

The Blue Star Mothers were packing up the tables and chairs when they noticed some of the small ribbons blowing off from the strong night wind and quickly gathered them together with a sense of urgency, and reattached each one with a stronger hold.  Our Extra Milers responded to the ribbons as they respond to our troops – with a sense of urgency to honor their sacrifice, by caring for the family and friends they have left behind, and by holding them tight in their hearts. 

Vanessa Coulter had a dream that she could ease the pain of family and friends who have been left behind.  Trish Williams and friends helped her to make it happen.  Thank you, Blue Star Mothers, for going above and beyond and for being Southern Indiana Extra Milers.  

Kindness Tip of the Month:   Boxes decorated with Blue Stars can be found in several areas throughout Southern Indiana.  Near each box should be copies of a wish list for items the Blue Star Mothers plan to send to the Indiana troops deployed overseas.  Boxes can be found at Sam’s Club (Veterans Parkway, Clarksville), The Evening News office (221 Spring Street, Jeffersonville) and New Albany Tribune (303 Scribner, New Albany) and Perkfections (359 Spring Street, Jeffersonville).  If your business would like to make collections throughout the year or make donations to the Blue Star Mothers, contact Vanessa Coulter at 502-572-5914 or email inbluestarmom@insightbb.com.

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March 2008

Extra Miler - Column 40 - March 2008: Herb Fenwick Is A Great Neighbor and Friend

 “The little unremembered acts of kindness and love are the best parts of a person's life.”  William Wadsworth

Come along with me.  I would like to introduce you to the proverbial man who gives the shirt off his back.  His name is Herb Fenwick and he resides in New Albany.  George Mouser, Herb’s friend, initially contacted me about a previous Extra Miler column.  I had suggested cutting out the column and presenting it personally to an Extra Miler.  George sent an email to say that he would have presented the column to Herb Fenwick, except Herb probably wouldn’t accept it.  

George went on to explain, “Herb wouldn’t think he deserves the recognition as a person who goes the extra mile.  He is the kind of man who doesn’t want or expect publicity or even a thank you for all he does for the people in this community.” 

Herb doesn’t wait to be asked for assistance; he simply jumps into action when he observes a need.  When he has completed his task, Herb doesn’t wait around for recognition or words of appreciation either.  Accolades are simply not part of the equation.  This was so much the truth that we kept this column a surprise until Herb received his Extra Miler pin. 

Herb raised four children on his farm and has always had time to help neighbors and his community.  He works diligently with his neighbors to protect the beauty of rural Floyd County. 

Herb’s daughter, Cindy Hundley, was thrilled about her father being recognized for his good deeds, “My father is the kind of guy that gets up in the early morning hours after a snowfall to shovel and clean his neighbor’s driveways before they get up.”  His only calling card is his reputation for doing such things in the neighborhood.  Cindy recalls how a friend once described her father, “Lisa described my dad as being like Jesus with skin…always looking to care for others.” 

At seventy-two years of age, Herb keeps a schedule that would put much younger men and women to shame.  He does odd jobs around homes in his neighborhood to help those who cannot do the work themselves or who do not have the expertise.  Cindy states, “My Dad has a servant’s heart; he probably volunteers to help six or seven different families regularly each week with a variety of jobs.” 

Herb’s long time friend, Norb Kruer, told how Herb was truly an Extra Miler, “He doesn’t accept status; he is only interested in doing the right thing for our families and our community. When Herb views a problem, he deals with it in a non-confrontational manner.”

Another friend, Joanna Danzl describes Herb as someone who is always willing to help out a neighbor.  Joanna said, “Herb isn’t a young man by age; however, he definitely works like one…he will help a neighbor roof a barn, cut firewood, or fix their broken appliances.” 

There doesn’t seem to be anything Herb will not do to help his neighbors and family members.  Joanna sums up our interview, “Herb Fenwick is a kind-hearted, gentle, and unselfish person who just amazes me.” 

Herb lives his life with respect – respect for the people in our community and respect for the land that he loves.  His friends describe him as a motivated individual who goes into each day with an optimistic attitude, a good sense of humor, and a desire to help those in need. 

George Mouser concluded our interview, “Herb is a strong but quiet man who is neither flamboyant nor egotistical.  Simply put, Herb Fenwick is a good neighbor and friend to all who know him and I’m happy to let him know this is how we feel.”  Herb, your neighbors, your family, and our community sincerely thank you for being a Southern Indiana Extra Miler.  

Kindness Tip of the Month:   Businesses can go the extra mile:   I have a 1947 photo of my father when he was just 17 years old; standing in an official group photo with his Navy unit in San Diego, California.  It has been hanging in my home for many years.  The photo fell from the wall recently and the glass broke to pieces.  Gently picking it up, glass and all, I took it to “Frame It Fast,” where a young man named Chris Nicheols took one look at it and said he could have it repaired by the next day. Without being asked, he quickly added, “No charge.”  My genius response was, “Are you sure?”  He nodded his head and said, “We are happy to do this for you.”  This gesture perked up a soggy cold winter day for this columnist.  If you have a business in Southern Indiana, consider offering acts of kindness whenever you can.  The goodwill will far exceed the benefit of keeping a client or customer content. 

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The Extra Miler   -February 2008

Hoosier Cheer for Our Heroes

By:  Carol A. Dawson

Josh had just returned from spending three days in the city of Baghdad.  Those past several days had been the worst of the six months since his deployment to Iraq.  As he headed toward his first shower in four days, he thought about his friends and family back home. 

Since last week was his birthday, Josh decided to check the mail tent.  As always, he was told he had no mail.  Josh’s parents and siblings were busy with life back home.  Still, he thought he would get a few cards on his 19th birthday. 

Josh started back toward the shower when he heard excited conversation at the back of the mail tent.  He turned back to find a large box had arrived with cards and letters for his unit.  As the word spread throughout the unit, soldiers made their way to the mail center.  Cards from Indiana school children, letters from college students, and cards from Southern Indiana citizens were stacked up on a table. 

Since Josh had a nine year old step-brother back home, he decided to pick up a few of the colorful cards written by the children who attend Green Valley Elementary School.  He read, “To A Troop, You are very, very, very brave.  My teacher is not so brave as you.  Thank you.  Love, David” The outside of the card was colored with a rainbow over a soldier and tank.  Josh could imagine his little brother creating just such a card. 

He picked up a card from school children at Our Lady of Perpetual Hope and it read, “I am a girl.  Do a lot of girls fight over there? God Bless You.”  He picked up a small white card that read, “I am a person with a disability attending a day program in New Albany.  Thank you for your service.” Josh smiled for the first time in six months.

He looked at the writing on the envelopes that showed respect for his work, “To An American Hero, To an Important Person in the Military, To A Brave Soldier, and To One of Our Nation’s Finest.”  Josh read a card from a mother who wrote, “My son is over there and I know how difficult it has to be for all of you.  Please understand our country appreciates your sacrifice.” 

As others began reading the cards, Josh picked up a final card with detailed and colorful Christmas drawings “I can’t believe you did all of that for us.  You are so brave. I sure hope Santa can find you. Merry Christmas. Abbie”  Josh asked if he could take a couple of the cards and was told there was enough for everyone to keep several cards.  He kept Abbie’s card and found the card with the rainbow and took them to his tent. 

He forgot about the previous three days, he forgot about his birthday being missed, and he forgot about his shower, as he re-read the two cards, crunched on the peppermint candy canes taped to the cards, and studied every detail of the thoughtful drawings.  He knew why he was in Iraq. 

Thank you to the Southern Indiana citizens who created and wrote out the 2,834 cards for the men and women serving our country in Iraq.  These cards and letters will be sent overseas through Lt. Governor Becky Skillman’s Hoosier Cheer for Our Heroes project and will be enjoyed by military personnel like Josh.  Thanks to The Evening News-New Albany Tribune for sponsoring our card drive, and to Sam’s Warehouse, First Christian Church, and Perkfection’s Coffee/Café for collecting the cards. 

Thank you to Barbara Reed, who sat and wrote notes in over a hundred cards in honor of her son, Michah Reed.  Michah is in Iraq and the story she told of soldiers who never receive mail inspired this column.   Thank you to Vicki Neely and the Green Valley Elementary School for being the first to respond to our call for cards.  A special thanks to my husband, Ken, who counted most of the cards while taping on over 2,500 candy canes. He always steps up when needed. 

To anyone who is serving or has served in the military – we thank you and wish you a Happy and Safe Holiday season. 

Kindness Tip of the Month:  If you would like to send cards/letters/packages to our troops, there are groups who will provide assistance.   My brother in the military advised that it is unlikely that any card or letter sent overseas or to any of the military hospitals without a specific name of a soldier, will be received.  If you would like to send packages or letters to soldiers in general, check out these verified web sites: 

www.healthytroops.com/SponsorATroop.htm or call (928) 536-9191

www.ustroopcarepackage.com/  or call (509) 521-7508

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The Extra Miler   - Colu mn #39 - January 2008 - A LITTLE RESPECT GOES A LONG WAY: Meet Kari Rigrish

By:  Carol A. Dawson

“Today, give a stranger one of your smiles.  It might be the only sunshine he sees all day.”  ~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Clarksville Community Schools Superintendent Stephen Fisher stopped Kari Rigrish as she walked in for our interview and teasingly asked, “Are you in trouble again, Kari?”  He followed her into the room and introduced himself.  When he was told Kari was our Southern Indiana Extra Miler he smiled and quickly responded, “Kari is a young person who respects herself.”  He added, “It is a big thing to me that people respect themselves and also respect others – Kari does both.”  Kari blushed.  

Our Extra Miler this month is Kari Rigrish, a senior at Clarksville High School.  Kari is many things to many people – but most of all, she is a caring person to everyone.  Kari volunteers with many school activities, including National Honor Society, school yearbook, cheerleading, school concessions, and as a Teacher’s Assistant.  She often takes a leadership role in her activities, such as being the editor of the yearbook and the captain of the cheerleaders. 

Kari’s teacher, Ms. Christina Faulkner, nominated her as an Extra Miler stating, “Kari is a caring leader who is respectful and helpful to everyone.”  Ms. Faulkner added, “She has a rare combination of many positive traits, including being very empathetic toward others.” 

Ms. Faulkner told of how Kari works with the freshman cheerleaders to give them confidence and ensure they are comfortable with their new high school environment.  She noted that Kari is an upbeat and happy person, “She is compassionate and motivated, but at the same time she is fun and likes to laugh.”  Ms. Faulkner added, “People just enjoy being around Kari.” 

Her cousin, close friend, mentor, and part time supervisor Candi Stockdale, raves about how special Kari is to all who know her, “Kari has always been a good person, partly because she has such a good family.”  When asked about Kari’s family, Candi replied, “Her family is rare…they have a strong bond and truly enjoy being with one another.”

Noting Kari’s maturity and leadership capabilities, Candi adds that Kari has a fun side, “Kari loves to laugh and she has an ongoing competition with my brother to see who can get a photograph of the most people in a single photograph, with them included and taking the photograph.”

Kari works for the YMCA part time, Children’s Place part time, as a summer camp counselor, and volunteers each week for her church (Ohio Falls United Methodist) as the Assistant Teacher for Youth Church.  She talks lovingly about the young children, “It is such fun to work with the young kids and to teach them about the bible one week and then hear the lesson repeated back to you the next week – they are amazing.” 

Kari’s peers refer to her as being energetic, compassionate, independent, outgoing, caring, and motivated.  Not bad references for a teenager.  She wants to major in Secondary Education at either IUS or IU Bloomington, making a career out of working with children. 

Kari remembers the first time she became involved in volunteer work.  She was in 6th grade and a group of youth planned to go to Haven House to volunteer for the evening.  She was a little scared, as she listened to some of the talk about the homeless shelter.  She didn’t know what to expect; however, after she arrived and met the people who lived there, Kari was hooked on the volunteer feeling.  She recalls, “We started out coloring with the children and then later helped with the meal and the people were very gracious…they let us know how special we made their day.” 

When asked why she performs acts of kindness and generosity, Kari responded, “Kindness is something that should come natural.  It is something I do for myself because I get more from it than I give.  Kindness becomes reciprocal….does that make sense?”  Kari Rigrish, it certainly does make sense.  You are a role model and leader for the youth in our community and we thank you for being a Southern Indiana Extra Miler.  

Kindness Tip of the Month:   Kari’s Tip:  There are small things you can do every day to brighten another person’s day.  When you pass a stranger, just smile and say hello.  Offer a friendly face and when you can, ask how they are doing.  No matter how small this may seem, we never know the impact it can make.  If you are kind to one person, and that person passes it on, it can continue to grow. 

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The Extra Miler   - Column #38 December 2007 - YOUR OPPORTUNITY TO RECOGNIZE AN EXTRA MILER FOR SOUTHERN INDIANA - Rev. Jim Higgins and Troops

Cut out this column...      

By:  Carol A. Dawson

Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.
-Martin Luther King, Jr.

Dr. King’s quote is my all-time favorite and it is printed below my email signature as a reminder to never stop pushing agendas that I know are good and right for our world.  My agenda often relates to equality, diversity/inclusiveness, and respect.  Take a moment to think about your agenda for Southern Indiana and beyond.

As 2007 ends, I become reflective of the past year in Southern Indiana and the people who have remained vocal about things that truly matter to the lives of others – in our world – in our community. 

Throughout the year, this column focuses on Extra Milers who quietly go about doing good things, without need for recognition or accolades.  However, they are not the only people who go the extra mile to make our world a better place to live and work.  The people who are in the forefront, relentlessly making headlines for change are also Extra Milers.  Their efforts are acknowledged in this year-end column. 

Who is your Southern Indiana Extra Miler; the person who risks it all to make positive change in our community? Is it the politician who casts the lone vote for change that will give us a healthier community?  Is it the person who fights for positive change in your workplace by being vocal about unfair treatment or is it the person who directs large non-profit efforts to provide better lives for those less fortunate?  Maybe it is the person who has faced adversity, overcome their hardship, and now works relentlessly to help others who find themselves in the same situation.  If your teacher, doctor, nurse, boss, lawyer, friend, pastor, rabbi, co-worker, neighbor, student, etc., is an Extra Miler, cut out this article and hand it to him/her with a person thank you note for being vocal about what matters in this community. 

If you have received a copy of this column, thank you for being a Southern Indiana Extra Miler in 2007.  Even when it hasn’t been the easiest journey, you have stayed the course to ensure the job is done and our community is a better place to live and work.  You are being recognized as an Extra Miler who makes a positive difference in our community and in our world.  Thank you for not being silent about things that matter.  We hope to continue reading, hearing, and seeing your good work in 2008. 

Happy New Year, Southern Indiana.

Remembering our Military in 2008:  The overwhelming positive response received from the past two columns regarding our troops has encouraged me to continue our efforts to recognize the men and women who are some the greatest Extra Milers of all – our military. 

In the months to come, you will be reading about on-going efforts by The Evening News and New Albany Tribune to recognize and remember our troops throughout 2008.  These efforts will be in conjunction with the Blue Star Mother’s Chapter President, Vanessa Coulter and Judge Jerry Jacobi.  We will provide information on how you can provide on-going support for the hundreds of Indiana troops who are either already in Iraq or will be deployed this month. 

I recently communicated with Dr. (Col.) Jim Higgins, who is the Senior Pastor for McEachern Memorial UMC in Powder Springs, Georgia.  In 2007, he served as an Army Reserve Chaplain, stationed in Balad, Iraq at LSA Anaconda.  His blog, found at www.letters-from-the-desert.blogspot.com details his remarkable journey as a minister and soldier.  One of his stories caught my attention and I share it with you in an effort to keep our soldiers in your thoughts and prayers.  Dr. Higgins gladly authorized this reprint (original blog written in May 2007). 

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The Extra Miler - Column #37 November 2007 - REMEMBERING...OUR TROOPS (A story based on a day in the life...)

By: Carol A. Dawson

Josh had just returned from spending three days in the city of Baghdad.  Those past several days had been the worst of the six months since his deployment to Iraq.  As he headed toward his first shower in four days, he thought about his friends and family back home. 

Since last week was his birthday, Josh decided to check the mail tent.  As always, he was told he had no mail.  Josh’s parents and siblings were busy with life back home.  Still, he thought he would get a few cards on his 19th birthday. 

Josh started back toward the shower when he heard excited conversation at the back of the mail tent.  He turned back to find a large box had arrived with cards and letters for his unit.  As the word spread throughout the unit, soldiers made their way to the mail center.  Cards from Indiana school children, letters from college students, and cards from Southern Indiana citizens were stacked up on a table. 

Since Josh had a nine year old step-brother back home, he decided to pick up a few of the colorful cards written by the children who attend Green Valley Elementary School.  He read, “To A Troop, You are very, very, very brave.  My teacher is not so brave as you.  Thank you.  Love, David” The outside of the card was colored with a rainbow over a soldier and tank.  Josh could imagine his little brother creating just such a card. 

He picked up a card from school children at Our Lady of Perpetual Hope and it read, “I am a girl.  Do a lot of girls fight over there? God Bless You.”  He picked up a small white card that read, “I