Lee Overpeck and church member, Case Dawson
The Extra Miler – Southern Indiana Showing Respect for Tom Staley
By Carol Dawson - Column 105
Occasionally you meet a person whose kind and caring heart is immediately evident. Tom Staley was that person for all who knew him. He was my son’s father-in-law and the kind of individual that we should all aspire to be.
Tom had cancer. He fought it bravely and without complaint until his body let him down. His wife, Janet, his three daughters, their families, and many friends, buried Tom on March 21, 2022.
During the funeral, a close friend commented that in the lifetime he had been friends with Tom, he had never heard a negative word said about him, but more importantly, he never heard Tom say anything bad about others. Tom Staley was clearly loved, respected, and admired.
After the heart-warming and sorrowful goodbyes at Tom’s crowded funeral, it was time to make the long trip to the gravesite for final words and a special Veteran tribute by the Sellersburg American Legion Post 204.
My husband and I, along with our young grandsons, were one of the last cars in the long procession to Tom’s final resting place. We quickly noticed every vehicle pulled to the side of the road (on both sides), and stopped at traffic lights; some vehicles waiting through multiple light changes as the procession headed from Sellersburg to New Albany. Throughout the 10-minute drive, it was inspiring and emotional to see how Southern Indiana citizens showed their respect and reverence toward the funeral procession.
Members of the American Legion were at the gravesite to greet the Navy Veteran and those who loved him. The ceremony consisted of the playing of “Taps,” a rifle detail with a gun salute, a touching poetry reading, and uniformed service members presentation of the burial flag. It was a sobering ceremony as the flag was methodically and reverently folded and placed into the hands of Tom’s grieving widow.
Tom Staley, the Navy Veteran who always went the extra mile in both his personal and professional life, courageously fought his final battle with cancer. Although we grieve his loss, it is now time for our friend to rest in peace.
Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”
Carol A. Dawson is a resident of Jeffersonville and owner of EEO GUIDANCE, Inc. If you have seen or been a part of an act of kindness or know an EXTRA MILER, please let her know about it. To submit a story or act of kindness, contact Carol via email: Cdawson@eeoguidance.com or mail: THE EXTRA MILERS, 212 Pearl Street, Jeffersonville, IN 47130.
KINDNESS TIPS: If you are in a vehicle and see a funeral procession (typically the cars will follow a black sedan/hearse and have a flag and/or emergency flashing lights), slow your vehicle, pull to the side of the road, and wait until all cars in the procession pass. If you are a pedestrian, stop walking and remove your hat if you’re wearing one.
The American Legion posts in Indiana need Veterans willing to help in various capacities with funerals. If you are a military Veteran, please consider talking with the American Legion in your area to find how you might help with future Veteran funeral proceedings. Don’t let this ceremony honoring our Veterans vanish because of lack of volunteers.
IN Post 0035
801 Main St Jeffersonville, IN 47130-4456 / Phone: (812)283-8020
Email: indalpost35@gmail.com
IN Post 0028
PO Box 1265 New Albany, IN 47151-1265 / Phone: (812)945-1944
Email: post28secretary@gmail.com
IN Post 0204
412 N New Albany St Sellersburg, IN 47172-1233 / Phone: (812)246-4064
Email: alpost204@yahoo.com
IN Post 0042
4530 Paoli Pike Floyds Knobs, IN 47119-9631 / Phone: (812)923-9842
Email: post42inleg@gmail.com
N Post 0335
1199 Basham Dr Charlestown, IN 47111-1910 / Phone: (812)256-3947
Email: americanlegion0335@att.net
IN Post 0105
PO Box 219 Henryville, IN 47126-0219
IN Post 0379
5365 American Legion Ln SE Elizabeth, IN 47117-9013 \ Phone: (812)969-2751
Email: legion379@frontier.com
IN Post 0062
PO Box 157 New Washington, IN 47162-0157
IN Post 0123
PO Box 372 Corydon, IN 47112-0372 / Phone: (812)364-6776
IN Post 0234
PO Box 151 Scottsburg, IN 47170-0151 / Phone: (812)752-3339
IN Post 0041
209 S Main St Salem, IN 47167-1319 / Phone: (812)883-9802
IN Post 0332
PO Box 265 Milltown, IN 47145-0265 / Phone: (812)633-4293
Email: americanlegionin332@gmail.com
N Post 0708
7125 W Sr 256 Madison, IN 47250-7726
IN Post 0009
PO Box 195 Madison, IN 47250-0195 / Phone: (812)265-4417
N Post 0084
PO Box 202 Marengo, IN 47140-0202 / Phone: (812)365-9800
IN Post 0512
500 Bus Stop Dr Madison IN 47250 / Phone: (812) 265-6154
IN Post 0203
975 N Lynd Rd Orleans, IN 47452-9125
IN Post 0195
5658 N White River Rd Campbellsburg IN 47108-6023
IN Post 0133
407 S Frog St Leavenworth, IN 47137-2346 / Phone: (812)739-2265
Email: jkmcintosh2004@aol.com
N Post 0112
125 E Walnut St Brownstown, IN 47220-1510 / Phone: (812)521-3309
Email: amlegionpost112@yahoo.com
N Post 0089
400 W 2nd St Seymour, IN 47274 / Phone: (812)522-1846
Extra Milers, Bonnie Purlee, Lily Morrill and Ada Morrill, stand at the food pantry of Center for Lay Ministries.
UMC Jeffersonville Music
Camp 2025
EXTRA MILER COLUMN - #111 - Recognizing Coach Charles Thomas and all who voluntarily give their time to youth sports
By Carol Dawson
Watching children and grandchildren play sports on community and school teams is a rite of passage for many and if we watch carefully, we see much more than just the score. We see the heartfelt efforts by the children, friendships being formed, and the meaningful moments of individual and team success. These things remain with children long after the score is recorded and the winner is proclaimed.
Nothing happens without a coach. Before the first pitch or whistle blows, volunteer coaches show up giving their time, energy and above all…patience. There are millions of individuals across the country who voluntarily step into coaching positions to work, sweat, and celebrate with optimistic eyed children. Most also have full time jobs outside of coaching.
I first met Coach Charles Thomas as he coached two of my grandson’s basketball teams. Coach Thomas was working with a community team while also coaching an elementary school team, all the while running a Cleaning and Services business. He holds individual practices for each team, demanding considerable time from his business and family.
Coach Thomas works with the children during every sporting season, coaching baseball, basketball, and football teams. When asked why he spends so much of his time coaching, he said, “Honestly, I love it; I get a kick out of seeing children begin a sport and then watching their growth over the years.” He added, “It is enjoyable to watch those moments when they “click,” and the sport starts to make sense.”
Coach Thomas spoke of the influence of his parents. “My Mom and Dad were and still are major influences and my biggest supporters in all I do. I also had coaches along the way that were influential in my life. I want to make that same sort of positive impact on the young people I work with.”
When asked how many hours a week he spends coaching, Coach Thomas responded, “Too many o count, but I wouldn’t change anything. My best friends are kids I met playing sports and I want that for my son and his teammates.”
Thomas started coaching when his oldest son, Caleb, was in third grade. Today, he coaches his younger son Kyrie, age 9, with Caleb, now 22, occasionally joining in as an assistant coach.
When asked what he gets from volunteering, Coach Thomas explained, “These ball players keep me going and they keep me young. I enjoy encouraging team spirit and friendships and hopefully some will play long enough to get college scholarships. Knowing I could have played a part in something like that puts a smile on my face.”
Coach Thomas believes all children should try sports; if one doesn’t work for them, try another one. He explained, “They learn so much more than just that sport. They learn to work with others as a team, and they also learn responsibility and perseverance.”
When asked to describe the worst part about coaching, I fully expected Coach Thomas to say…the parents; however, he stated, “The referees and umpires. They can be so frustrating at times.” Thomas added, “But the best part about being a coach is being a role model and a person the children can come to when they need someone. I have had some young men who I coached and are now playing college sports, contact me just to check in on ole’ Coach Charles. That warms my heart more than they will ever know.”
Coach Thomas’ favorite quote is, “How you do anything is how you do everything.” He explained, “If you work hard in the classroom, then I know I can depend on you to work hard on the court or field.”
Coach Thomas encourages others to step in and help with youth sports, even if they can’t be the head coach. Every team needs assistants and the leagues need support staff. Everyone involved in sports can leave a positive impression on our youth.
Seasons pass, but the presence of an inspirational coach will remain with a child, woven into their confidence, character, and memories. A coach gives his/her time because they understand these days on the court or field can make a significance difference for a child. Their encouragement and steady presence are pressed into our children’s lives and memories, and if we pay attention, we realize how all of this also impacts those of us watching from the stands.
To Coach Charles Thomas and all coaches who give so much, often without recognition, thank you for being part of our children’s development and for being Southern Indiana Extra Milers.
Extra Miler Column - #109
By Carol A. Dawson
The Bratchers and City Pride
We were strangers, each enjoying a beautiful day with different objectives. However, on a brisk summer morning, destiny would connect our paths.
Residents of Jeffersonville, Gil and Maggie Bratcher, were on their regular morning walk along Utica Pike.
My objective was to have a successful walk with our new rescue pup, Kalani. This was to be our first long trek near the river. Kalani cooperated on her walk, allowing me to enjoy the glimmering Ohio River view.
Ahead, Gil and Maggie were walking near the road, occasionally darting from the sidewalk picking up trash that citizens had carelessly thrown from vehicles. There was nothing obviously marking them as paid city employees. It was immediately clear I had stumbled across a couple of Extra Milers.
Moving closer to the couple, I greeted them and was prepared to discuss their efforts to rid the landscape of unwanted trash, when my foot slipped off the sidewalk edge. Having never mastered the football roll, the fall was hard and flat. I felt the concrete primarily meet my face and knee.
Kalani decided this was an opportunity to play and immediately jumped on top for some puppy joy. Gil and Maggie didn’t hesitate to run over and immediately take Kalani’s leash and ask if I was okay. Maggie saw the fall and advised my knee appeared to have taken the hardest hit. Her assessment was accurate.
Unable to stand, Gil asked if he could assist or call for help. I asked him to call my husband. Gil extended an offer to assist me in reaching their residence, located across the street. I declined, but not being a person to waste an Extra Miler’s time, I was already conducting the interview for this column.
Littering remains a substantial environmental and societal issue, impacting our community. Whether it is from cigarette butts contaminating the soil with toxins or plastic waste accumulating in our Ohio River, the consequences are sizeable.
Gil and Maggie indicated they had been picking up trash along the roads of their neighborhood for several years. They didn't consider their actions extraordinary. Gil stated, “This is where we live, and we simply do not like seeing all this trash along the road and in the yards.” Maggie added, “There are really three reasons we do this while out walking. First, we don’t like looking at this trash! Second, we don’t want all this trash to end up in the river, and third, so the birds/chicks don’t think it’s food and die from the accumulation of plastics in their bodies.”
Concerned about littering and community pride, I reached out to Mayor Moore for ways Southern Indiana residents can help. He immediately introduced me to a Jeffersonville committee, CityPride.
Established in 2004, CityPride is Jeffersonville’s Beautification Committee. The 10-12 volunteers dedicate their time, energy, and creativity toward the beautification of Jeffersonville. These volunteers have undertaken a variety of projects, including the installation of bicycle planters, development/upkeep of Glossbrenner Garden (across from Red Yeti), installations at Preservation Park, fall decorations on Court Avenue, coordinating and expanding holiday decorations/lighting throughout the City, and the renovations and plantings on Court Avenue.
Most recently, these volunteers have installed large flower planters throughout the city. During their most recent meeting, there was considerable discussion regarding the placement of the costly planters. Motorists are notoriously drawn to them in the most unfortunate manner – by crashing into them.
CityPride is funded by the City of Jeffersonville and approved by the City Council. Key representatives include Mayor Mike Moore, Paul Northam (Director of Parks and Recreation), Andy Crouch (City Engineer), and Richard Snelling (Parks Department).
We recognize not only Gil and Maggie Bratcher as Extra Milers, but also all who volunteer with CityPride. Our community benefits significantly because of their efforts.
Carol Dawson is a resident of Jeffersonville and owner of EEO GUIDANCE, Inc. If you have seen or been a part of an act of kindness or know an EXTRA MILER, please let her know about it. To submit a story or act of kindness, contact Carol via email: Cdawson@eeoguidance.com (subject: Extra Milers), or mail: THE EXTRA MILERS, 212 Pearl Street, Jeffersonville, IN 47130.
Things you can do to help.
Always pick up trash you see. Value our community and help keep it clean.
Join the CityPride committee. They meet the first and third Tuesday each month, with the next meeting April 1 in the Mayor’s conference room in City Hall.
Join the City of Jeffersonville for the Earth Day Festival on Saturday, April 19
12pm - 4pm (701 Michigan Ave., Jeffersonville)
EXTRA MILER COLUMN #110
The Extra Miler - Lee Overpeck
By Carol A. Dawson
At 6’3” Lee Overpeck is a bear of a man; however, his heart and actions put him more in the category of a teddy bear. Lee is known for his warmth and willingness to help, and he embodies the spirit of being an “Extra Miler.”
After retiring from a successful career as a manager and director in 2011, Lee found himself searching for meaningful ways to spend his time. “I have to say my motivation to begin volunteering stemmed from boredom. You can only do so many crossword puzzles before you start going stir-crazy,” he explained.
In 2012, Lee was moved to help when the tornado struck Henryville and the surrounding area. Lee recalled, “I answered an ad to volunteer for the recovery effort and upon arriving at the center, they asked if I had a chainsaw and I did. However, before I could head to the job, I told them I was retired and could help as long as needed. They quickly called me back into the office.”
Fast forward two years later, Lee was still with the tornado volunteer center. Fellow volunteer, Beverly Knight, recalls, “Lee is the kind of person everyone wants to work beside – always happy, never a negative word, and always willing to do whatever was necessary to help others.”
Lee used his knowledge to develop a database program to help track properties needing volunteer assistance, along with scheduling and tracking the groups of over 12,000 volunteers doing the work. The database also kept track of the amount of money being spent on each location, serving as an accounting tool for paying invoices.
After his work with tornado recovery, Lee joined the Retired and Senior Volunteer Program (RSVP), offering his expertise in database management. Soon, the director for the Center for Lay Ministries (CLM), Greg Henderzahs (retired), contacted Lee for help. Lee explained, “Greg wanted a better method of managing volunteers and clients. I discovered they were using note cards to track the clientele and the amount of goods being offered. I agreed to help them tackle the job of upgrading their system.”
Henderzahs noted, “Lee went way beyond just creating a database. He worked as a full time volunteer, was able to acquire four donated computers from his previous employer (Baptist East Hospital}, and served as my go-to person. He conducted training classes for volunteers, drove a box truck to pick up groceries, organized the stockroom, stocked shelves in the pantry, and rallied a group of men from Wall Street United Methodist Church (WSUMC) to make 24 extra-large pizzas each week for the clients to enjoy.” Henderzahs estimates the group made over 6,000 pizzas for CLM.
When asked why he thought Lee put so much into the volunteer efforts, Henderzahs stated, “Simply put, Lee is driven by his faith.”
WSUMC pastor, Deb Way, describes Lee, “He is a Renaissance Man at Wall Street. He makes pizzas from scratch to feed the unhoused, puts the slide deck together for worship each week, sings in the choir and rings hand bells, just to name a few, and is always ready with a joke.”
In 2023, Lee was diagnosed with prostate cancer and later lymphoma in his lung, requiring radiation and chemotherapy. “It is really a jolt when you hear people talking to you about end-of-life issues. I have always tried to be “in control” of things in my life. This proved I was certainly not in control, and I realized at 78 years old; I might actually be old.” Despite these challenges, Lee continued volunteering in the church kitchen and supporting community programs.
Lee enjoys singing, and the congregation at WSUMC is soothed each Sunday by Lee’s clear and precise bass voice filling the church. He also has been singing with the Louisville Chorus for 30 years.
Lee encourages others to volunteer, saying, “It makes you feel good! When you focus on things outside of yourself, you feel more fulfilled. You also increase your personal horizons, not to mention increasing the number of good friends.”
As if the volunteer efforts aren’t enough to fill Lee’s retirement days, he and his wife, Linda, have eight grandchildren they enjoy chasing around their home.
Lee shares a favorite quote to motivate others, “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give,” – Winston Churchill
Lee Overpeck’s story is a testament to the power of service, resilience, and community. His example reminds us that giving back transforms the lives of others, while enriching our own. Thank you to Lee Overpeck, for being a Southern Indiana Extra Miler.
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EXTRA MILERS - COLUMN #105
FLOWER POWER
The Extra Milers – April 2024
By Carol Dawson
After Five Years, Flowers Still Have Power
It was Monday morning and Barry James had somewhere to be. As he walked into the offices of the Retired Senior Volunteer Services (RSVP), a sweet aroma and splash of color filled him with peace. There were buckets of flowers everywhere. Barry was here to pay it forward.
Barry is comfortable in this place and with the volunteers who happily greet him. While volunteers create arrangements from repurposed flowers, Barry does the heavy lifting by placing more than a hundred vases filled with beautiful arrangements into boxes to be delivered to individuals in Hosparus care and nursing homes.
When asked why he volunteers with the Flower Power group, Barry immediately recalls his wife of 62 years and their darkest hours together before she passed away. “Bonnie and I met in high school; she was a cheerleader and I played basketball. We had a good life and were devoted to one another. Then everything changed.”
Barry explained, “Bonnie started forgetting things and was often confused, but I was determined to care for her at home, until things became worse. There was a kitchen fire and our children said it was time to place my Bonnie in a Nursing Home.”
For the next five years, Barry visited his wife twice a day. Occasionally, Hosparus or Nursing Home staff members would bring Bonnie flowers. One day he noticed a tag, showing the flowers were from the RSVP. Barry recalled, “Bonnie always brightened up when the flowers were brought in.”
After Bonnie passed away, Barry knew it was important to keep busy. He approached RSVP and tried various volunteer jobs; however, something was missing. Barry wanted to feel passionate about volunteering and recalled the beautiful flower arrangements Bonnie had received, and now volunteers weekly with the group, “Flower Power.”
Barry has become an essential part of the group. Like all the volunteers, he joined to bring color and joy to those who are ill and approaching the end of life. He joined the group to pay it forward.
Each week, these talented volunteers use flowers deemed too old to sell, along with flowers from funerals, weddings, etc., to create beautiful arrangements in donated vases. Hosparus picks up the arrangements, often more than 100, and distributes them to various patients and nursing home residents.
The volunteers have been working together for over five years to bring beauty to our community. Inspired by a Louisville group, the concept of Flower Power was brought to RSVP by Loretta Broady. Loretta, a retired special education supervisor, said she became involved when the RSVP office manager, Karen Ellis, asked her to be on the board. Loretta said, “I told her I would serve on the board if we could start this group, Flower Power. Karen contacted Hosparus and once they were on board, we just had to pull in friends and find places to donate flowers.”
A newer member of Flower Power, Linda Hornung, explained how she became involved, “I found out about the group from my son’s mother-in-law, Bev Juliot, who has been a member for years. The volunteers here are brightening the lives of those who need it the most and I wanted to join in.”
Younger family members become involved, as several volunteers bring grandchildren to help. Mary Ann Kempf, a retired hospital RN, enjoys bringing her granddaughter, Amelia Lloyd, to volunteer. Amelia is in Pre-Kindergarten and when asked about volunteering with her grandmother, she replied, “I really have fun; especially chopping off the dead flower leaves!”
Vyoma Pathakjee, a retired physical therapist, has volunteered with the Flower Power group for several years. She enjoys the beauty of the flowers, the colors, and the positive mission. Vyoma explained, “In my career, I dealt with patients who were ill, and I saw how flowers would cheer them up. This is a good group of fun people; they get along very well as they accomplish the mission of making life a bit brighter for those who are suffering.”
Karen Ellis provided the statistics for the 5th anniversary of Flower Power. There have been 20,764 flower arrangements delivered through 4,172 volunteer hours.
Loretta, the undisputed leader of Flower Power, summed up their mission, “Although we all enjoy making beautiful flower arrangements from older and discarded flowers, our focus is always on those who will receive the arrangements. We are happy if we can give a sliver of sunshine to those who receive an arrangement”
Imagine how many more lives will be brightened in the next five years, as this group of loving volunteers keeps working their magic, turning buckets of discarded flowers into therapy for the heart.
Photo Cutline: Doug Drake and Rev. Harriett Akins-Banman place the Extra Miler pin on Chase Braden.
EXTRA MILER - Column #103
Seizing the Day
By Carol Dawson
(you should already have this shot on file)
Among the gentle spirits who were congregating in the Centenary United Methodist Church gathering room, one person stood out, but not because he didn’t fit in. The crowd likely had an average age of 70 years. They had gathered together to enjoy fellowship, brunch, and the Jamey Aebersold Quartet’s rhythmic jazz sounds.
The person who stood out from the crowd was a young 16 year old church member, Chase Braden, our Extra Miler.
Chase was at the charity event, as he has been for several years, helping in the kitchen, serving coffee, and helping people to their seats. He comfortably chatted with many of the men and women attending the brunch; showing an understanding, wisdom, and behavior that typically results from a life lived much longer than 16 years.
Chase settled into his seat and was seemingly mesmerized by the music. Chase later explained, “Jamey Aebersold has been an inspiration to me. I started playing the saxophone in Jr. High School and he taught me the importance of practice and dedication.” Chase appreciates any guidance he gets regarding music because he feels there is less support for it in the community. “Our schools have eliminated a lot of the programs in the arts and these subjects provide an avenue for children to express themselves when often they have no other comfortable way,” Chase explained.
Music isn’t Chase’s only passion. He is extremely dedicated and involved in his church, serving as the Youth District Delegate to the United Methodist Annual Conference. Chase also sets up for communion/worship services, works in the food pantry, serves dinners, helps with Vacation Bible School, sings in the choir, plays bass in the praise band and tries to assist with every church event. Chase’s pastor, Reverend Harriett Akins-Banman, explains her view on our Extra Miler, “Chase has two primary focuses in his life – keeping his authentic faith in Christ and his family. His family taught him a value system that supports his good work.”
Chase, a Junior at New Albany High School, is in the National Honor Society, National Society of High School Scholars, Thespian Honor Society, and is has acted in eight plays. Chase has a goal to be either a high school or college history teacher because he finds world history fascinating. Chase explained the importance of a recent Latin class trip to Italy. He said, “This trip was a really good opportunity for me. I was able to actually experience the history of the world.”
Chase, his grandparents, mother and father have all been recognized as “Giants of the Faith,” by Hope Southern Indiana. He affirmed, “It was a huge honor to receive the Giants of the Faith recognition, since it has been like a family tradition with three generations.”
When asked why he volunteers his time for his church, Chase responded, “This is a church with good people. Anytime my family has had struggles, our church has been there for us – this is just a small way to give back. Also, being a volunteer at the events gives me the opportunity to be with my grandparents and to make sure they are okay.”
Doug Drake, a friend and member of Chase’s church congregation, described Chase as being faithful and dedicated. He said, “This young man is motivated to do good things through his faith. He goes out of his way to make others feel good. Recently my brother passed away and Chase surprised me during church by learning and playing my favorite religious song on his saxophone. I was deeply moved.”
Reverend Harriett told of the many good deeds Chase does for others – both big and small and noted he is perfectly described as an Extra Miler, since he often prefers to be behind the scenes. She described Chase as being a “compassionate” young man.
When asked for a one word description of himself, Chase responded, “Intelligent…can I say that; I don’t want to sound vain at all. I study a lot in order to accomplish my goals and when I really enjoy the subject, I do very well.” When asked how he thinks others would describe him, Chase responded, “Caring.” There is nothing vain about it…Chase Braden is a compassionate, caring, faithful and intelligent young man.
Chase has a phrase that describes the person he is and the person he wants to remain throughout life… “Carpe diem (seize the day),” and he doesn’t plan for anything to throw him off his goals.
Chase…thank you for being an Extra Miler for Southern Indiana and for making a positive difference in your community.
Extra Miler Tip of the Month
Chase is passionate about helping others and he wanted to share these words with our readers: “If you care about something, give it your best to make it better…get involved. If you love something and you know how you can make it better, don’t hold back. To quote a Star Wars film, The Empire Strikes Back, "Do. Or do not. There is no try.”
RSVP Volunteers - Flower Power Volunteers
Becky and Eric Timerding, receiving the Extra Miler pins from Pastor Kathy Ottinger
Extra Miler - Column 105
Columnist Conference in Alabama Evokes Deep Emotions
By Carol Dawson
Even Birmingham’s sweet-scented magnolia lined streets cannot disguise the city’s objectionable history, nor does the city try. When the National Society of Newspaper Columnists (NSNC) announced their annual conference would be held in Birmingham, the city’s history of racism and intolerance wasn’t going to impact my decision to cross a couple of state borders to attend. Educational opportunities are everywhere, and Birmingham was no exception.
The NSNC conference included several speakers who were prominent writers and columnists who live and work in Birmingham and elsewhere in Alabama, explaining what makes their current residence worthwhile. They also provided facts regarding the racism of the past and the ills that continue to plague their state. They spoke of change, including a necessary re-writing of the Alabama state constitution. Although there are efforts to make essential changes, the current Alabama constitution, re-written in 1901, continues to be riddled with intent to harm and exclude minorities.
Despite its history, this sweet tea, football loving city has many kind and helpful people, including both men and women who greet visitors with drawn out terms of endearment like “Sunshine” and “Honey.”
Even Birmingham’s panhandlers were polite. Across the street from the Birmingham Civil Rights Institute (BCRI), I struggled to negotiate the odd parking meter system requiring an app for payment. A nicely dressed man who I misjudged as a helpful City employee, approached, and offered assistance. He advised there was free parking just a couple of blocks away and gave directions. Then he went into a memorized spiel asking for money. I responded that I didn’t carry cash. He wasn’t pushy or rude, but sophisticated to the point of then offering to accept money via Wise, or even PayPal. I respectfully declined.
The BCRI, which opened in 1992, is another approach Birmingham is taking to enlighten future generations about civil/human rights. The BCRI is an affiliate of the Smithsonian Institution and is a monument to the thousands of people dedicated to the philosophy of nonviolent protests. There were stories of people who risked, and many who lost, their lives in struggles and confrontations to change minds and achieve equality and fairness across the state.
A trip through the BCRI clearly shows Birmingham’s historical response was to meet peaceful protests with violence. Brilliantly conceived, visitors are taken through an emotional journey of hate and violence against people of color and those who would dare to support their struggle for equality. Exhibits and artifacts also show advancements made because of these efforts.
Listening to the voices of those who lived through the worst of times and viewing the life-sized examples of discrimination, BCRI provided an emotional passage through the years. So much sorrow, all the while cognizant that a blonde, blue-eyed woman can never fully fathom the level of pain and suffering that results from being hated and feared simply because of skin color.
Hate that led men to bomb churches. Hate that led to the bombing and murder of four young girls in their Sunday School class at the 16th Street Baptist Church and two teenage boys shot randomly that same day. While reading about the details of these murders, I looked up to see the same Baptist church across the street. I was nearly 8-years old when I heard about this tragedy and I like many others, that moment made the cost of hate frighteningly clear.
There were videos of those who survived and who will never forget. Countless men and women sacrificed their lives to ensure equality for the next generation, yet throughout our country, much of this hate continues. The BCRI stands as a memorial and a reminder of man-made evil attempts to destroy what our US Constitution guarantees. The 1868 Fourteenth Amendment to the Constitution provides, "…nor shall any State ... deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws."
Each one of us should feel tasked to stand up against racism, sexism, and all the other isms that many in our country seem to be hell-bend on preserving from generation to generation. We must do better; we must be better. We can be better.
Birmingham has embraced their past by telling the many stories of their people – both the good with the bad. With the thought-provoking exhibits in the BCRI, they have ensured these stories will never be forgotten.
Carol Dawson and husband, Ken Crutchfield at the Civil Rights Institute
EXTRA MILERS - Column #108
World War II Veteran Celebrates 100 Years
By Carol A. Dawson
Sixteen million Americans fought in World War II, but the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs estimates less than 70,000 remain alive today. Maurice Stilger is one of those veterans. He celebrated his 100th birthday this month, surrounded by those he loves the most, his family.
Stilger served in the US Navy and was stationed overseas during the war at Admiralty Islands (Operation Brewer). Once the US took over the island, the Navy brought in a ship repair unit, which included Stilger. He was stationed there for 30 months, repairing damaged battleships.
After his service, Stilger returned to Lanesville, Indiana. He later married his sweetheart, Norma Lee Traub, and started his family, which included five children, Maurice L. Stilger, Mary Ann Delaney, Susan Adoba, Janet Staley, and Kathy Drake. Stilger said, “I’m happy to say all my children are here celebrating my 100th birthday. It is such a good feeling to have them beside me and it is so important to know they are all healthy.”
When asked what he believes has contributed the most to his longevity, Stilger replied, “It is simple. I have stayed out of trouble through the years. Even when I was young, I stayed busy on the family farm and tried to be a good person.” He added, “Also, I grew up eating fresh food, not processed food like people eat now…we ate food from the garden, and for years I have had a glass of home-made red wine every evening.”
Stilger’s brother, Jerome, the proclaimed baby of the family at 93 years old, substantiated his older brother’s claims, “Maurice has always been a good person who has raised a wonderful family, keeps his mind sharp, and takes good care of himself…or he wouldn’t be here at 100 years old.”
When Stilger was asked what advice he could give to our readers, he had an immediate answer, “Stay out of trouble. You will live longer!”
His children believe Stilger has done well in his life partially because of his humor and that humor was evident after the interview concluded as he asked, “Is this over; I have a nice piece of chocolate cake here that has been waiting for me. Thanks, and hope to see you next year.”
After a tournament win, the Jeffersonville 3rd grade feeder team celebrate: Left to right: Coach Charles Thomas, DJ Dawson, Makai Jordan, Liam Skinner, Diondre Williams, Kyrie Thomas, Tripp Estes, Carter Klacamp, Jahmir Johnson. Not pictured: Chris (C2) Laird
CityPride members meet at City Hall twice a month. L to R: Richard Eckland, Brenda Johnston (CityPride facilitator), Dave Julius, Judy Behringer, Richard Snelling (Parks Department), and Dan Griffin (not pictured are: Lynn McCoskey, Jim McCoskey, and Judith VanGilder, along with the remaining City officials)
The Deepest Scars Can Heal - Column # 104
By Carol A. Dawson
“Boy Plays Now, Despite ‘Unbelievable’ Damage,” was the 1962 newspaper article’s headline. The article described a nightmare dog attack against a young boy and his miraculous recovery. Stuart Coulter, now a 54 year old Southern Indiana resident, lived the nightmare.
Coulter was an active red-haired blue-eyed child when his life changed drastically. Four year old Coulter had wandered into a neighbor’s yard and ended up the victim of a chained German Shepherd on the attack.
The dog masticated most of Coulter’s face before anyone could stop the attack. Coulter recalls sharp teeth, but no pain. His older brother saw the attack and screamed for help. Coulter was taken to General Hospital in Louisville and endured 8 hours of surgery. Coulter remembers waking up in the hospital with his face and head completely covered in gauze and a tracheotomy tube in his throat. He explained, “I was confused, scared, in pain, couldn’t see, and couldn’t talk. I reached up to feel what I thought was fishing net covering my face and head.”
The plastic surgeon, Dr. Robert Cooper, was quoted, “I don’t recall in my own experience ever seeing as severe damage to soft tissue (skin, muscle, and nerves). It’s almost unbelievable that anyone could survive with this much damage.” Coulter’s ears were nearly torn off, much of the skin on the left side of his face was gone, his right eyelid was ripped and the upper and lower lids on his left eye were gone.
While in the hospital, young Coulter developed pneumonia and a staphylococcus infection; however, he kept fighting to live. Mildred, Coulter’s mother, referred to him as her “miracle boy,” and an attending ophthalmologist commented, “Let’s just say the good Lord helped him.”
After such a vicious attack, most children would be terrified of dogs, but not Coulter. He credits his mother for helping him learn how to cope. Coulter reminisced, “After being released from the hospital, I was playing outside when I saw a man walking a collie puppy. I cried out to my mother for help. She told me the dog would not hurt me and called the man over. She held me close while I reached out to pet the dog. He was soft and sweet; I got over my fear at that very moment.”
Coulter went through many painful surgeries during the 8 years following the attack. While he can’t recall the number of surgeries, he clearly remembers the cruel teasing and bullying he endured growing up. Coulter explained, “My father found out about the bullying and said I needed to defend myself. He taught me how to fight the taunting with my fists and I learned that lesson well.” Coulter indicates that he kept fighting most of his life, which led to other complications. He also learned handling controversy with violence was a difficult habit to break.
In high school Coulter learned how to channel some of his aggression into sports. His mother had to battle the high school administrators to allow him to participate. He smiles and recalls, “Through sports I learned to be more aware – I could feel the wind wrap around my body when I ran. I paid attention to the little things that made me a better athlete. Playing sports helped me forget the scars.”
After high school Coulter wanted to get into radio and television because he was used to being the center of attention and had no fear of it. He stated, “Even though the attention was primarily negative, it was still attention and I had learned to effectively deal with it.” He spent some time in Junior College, but longtime drug and alcohol use derailed him. His addictions took him through a long journey into dark places, including spending two years homeless.
Coulter was later diagnosed with bipolar disorder. He has studied and learned to cope with his illness and is now clean and sober, thanks to many good people who have provided assistance. Coulter lists many individuals from Southern Indiana who have helped, including the Wilder family. He credits Peggy Carmichael with helping him and his wife move from a tent in the woods into a home with furniture.
Peggy notes it was her strong Christian faith that motivated her to help. She met the Coulters at the First Presbyterian Church while working to feed the homeless. She explained, “I identified with Stuart and his wife because they were my children’s age. There was something special about Stuart that caught my attention. He was smart and able to articulate himself very well and was clearly comfortable talking with anyone who listened.”
Carmichael helped Coulter obtain disability assistance and gave him odd jobs to work for grocery cards. She also introduced him to others and his strong work ethic proved beneficial.
Coulter and his wife live with their two beloved dogs in their rented home in Jeffersonville. He said, “I have been in jail, I’ve been on the street, and I’ve been at very low places. I’ve built my life up only to tear it back down over and over with addictive behavior, but no more…I have a powerful influence of Christ in my life and I take my guidance from Him now.”
Although the dog attack significantly and negatively impacted his life, Coulter has an amazing optimism. He believes, “The good Lord got me through all of the complications during and after the attack and he continues to provide strength to get through each day now. The scars do not define me.”
While the scars from the dog attack are still clearly evident on his face, the scars on Coulter’s heart have healed.
The Extra Milers – Column 106
The Extra Milers
By Carol Dawson
Barbara Purlee was born in 1923 and raised in Massachusetts; eventually moving to Jeffersonville, Indiana with her husband in 1985. Lily was born in 2008 and Ada in 2011 – they have always lived in Jeffersonville.
Barbara is part of the Traditionalist generation. Lily and Ada are included in Gen Z.
Barbara is 96 years old. Lily is 10 and Ada is 8. Change that…Ada said she was 8 ½ years old. It is easy to forget how important those half years are to children.
Barbara was born before television, microwaves, cell phones, and bottled water, while Lily and Ada have never known life without these things.
Barbara visualizes the things she needs to do (laundry, volunteer, pay bills, etc.) for motivation to get going each day. Lily and Ada are motivated by being outdoors, time with family, vacations, singing, riding bikes, sports, writing and more.
Barbara had a career as a nurse, as she followed her husband to the various parishes where he was a pastor. Lily and Ada are looking forward to starting back to school after summer break.
Much of what Barbara, Lily and Ada have experienced in life is very different, yet they are very much alike.
All three of our Extra Milers are loving, caring, and dedicated to ensuring people who are on hard times get the help they need. All three devote time as volunteers and donors to the Center for Lay Ministries (CLM) Food Pantry in Jeffersonville.
These Extra Milers have learned the importance of giving their time and talents to help others from their parents. They have all been extensively involved in their church throughout their lives and currently attend church together at Wall Street United Methodist in Jeffersonville.
Barbara was recommended as an Extra Miler from the past and current Directors for the CLM, Greg Henderzahs and Kara Brown. Greg noted that Barbara was one of the most dedicated volunteers he had known, while Kara stated, “Barbara has been a valued volunteer with us for nearly 30 years and is an extremely dependable volunteer, working directly with our clients. She does an excellent job.”
Barbara began with CLM as a church representative on their board, which governs the Bliss House and the food pantry. She soon began volunteering in the food pantry. Barbara explained, “I started working in the pantry, stocking shelves and also interviewing clients. We could do both back then because we had so few people coming in for help. Now, we need someone to just conduct interviews because we stay so busy.”
When asked why the food pantry is so much busier now, Barbara replied, “I think it is because the work we do has spread from word of mouth, and people who need food know where to come. They can shop in our pantry once a month, as it is intended for emergency food sustenance. We also have our homeless population who come by once a week for a bag of groceries.”
Currently, Barbara works half a day every Friday. She explained why she continues to volunteer. “I am satisfied and comfortable in my life and when I see others who are struggling to put food on the table for their families, I don’t know how they do it, so I try to do what I can to make their lives a bit better.”
Lily and Ada Morrill came to my attention when they advertised their lemonade stand to raise money for the CLM food pantry. I was intrigued by the enthusiasm of these two young philanthropists.
Lily and Ada, with help and guidance of their parents, Bethany and Tim Morrill, have been selling lemonade (and cookies) in their neighborhood for three years and donating the proceeds to charity. Their efforts this summer resulted in a whopping $242.47, which resulted in 215.5 pounds of food donated to the CLM, with the remaining cash given as a donation. In the past they have donated to the Haven House, purchasing school supplies for the children who reside there.
Occasionally they also help the CLM food pantry by working in the back-stock room. When asked why they volunteer, Lily responded, “When you think about what you have, for instance a nice bed, family who love and care for you, three meals a day…then I know others may not have these things, I have to help.”
Ada replied, “I see homeless people and they don’t have basic things like a bed or food; it makes me sad. We keep homeless bags in our car with food, water and other things that we hand out.” Bethany added, “When Ada was just three years old, she was upset to learn that some people don’t have clean water. She wanted to do something for the “Clean Water Initiative,” so she made over 100 bookmarkers, sold them, and donated the proceeds.”
Lily writes a newsletter for her neighborhood she has entitled, “The Morrill News.” She includes news of the neighborhood, new neighbors, new houses being built, etc., along with her family news, famous quotes, and an editorial. Ada grinned and added, “She even interviewed Lucy, my American Girl doll!”
When asked to describe herself in one or two words, Barbara thoughtfully replied, “Caring and energetic.” Lily described herself as an optimist, “I love to be around other people.” Ada thought for a moment and then said, “I would say I’m energetic and usually happy, a dog lover, content with what I have, kind, and…ummmm, I’m usually hungry.”
When asked if Barbara had a favorite verse or quote, she didn’t hesitate to reply, “Yes, it is, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Lily stated she likes the Bible verse John 3:16, while Ada likes a quote from a wall hanging in her home, “Courage does not always roar, but sometimes it is the quiet voice at the end of the day that says, I will try again tomorrow.”
Barbara, Lily and Ada do not see their efforts as anything special…there is simply something innate within their personalities that compels them to be philanthropists. All three have charitable hearts that beat for humanity; they are servant leaders, showing us that you can’t be too old or too young to make a positive difference in our Southern Indiana community.
KINDNESS TIPS FOR YOU FROM OUR EXTRA MILERS:
Barbara: Really think of others and not just yourself – there are so many things you can do. You can be a reader or go to the grocery store for someone who can’t drive. Don’t let age be an excuse.
Lily / Ada: No matter your age, get out and volunteer; you will be helping others and it is also fun!
EXTRA MILER - Column #107
A Passion for Music and Community
By Carol Dawson
If you sit in the Wall Street United Methodist Church (WSUMC) sanctuary and watch Becky and Eric Timerding lead the Choir and listen to the beautiful music flowing throughout the building, you will understand their undeniable passion…music.
Becky is the WSUMC Accompanist, while her husband of 40 years, Eric, is the Director of Music. They work in tandem, as Becky moves from the piano to the organ and Eric leads the choir and congregation in song.
Recently Eric made a plea to church members to join the choir, stating there are no bad voices. When asked if he genuinely believes this, he replied, “I believe everyone can learn to sing. Like any muscle group, those muscles needed for singing need to be exercised. One who has stopped singing may find their vocal muscles “out of shape,” and matching their voice to the pitch they hear is a challenge. Through practice, anyone can learn to sing.”
Becky and Eric met when as students at Northern Kentucky University, majoring in music, where they participated in NKU’s jazz vocal ensemble.
Ironically, they have similar descriptions of one another. Eric stated, “Becky is loving, caring, talented, creative, hard-working, and Christ-like.” Becky responded, “Eric is solid, patient, kind, gentle, intelligent, and humble…a man with deep convictions.”
The couple’s son, Nathan, was born with cerebral palsy and a pulmonary condition that requires monitoring. When Nathan was in the NICU, Becky explained, “We placed a tape cassette player in his warming bed with relaxing classical music. Whenever it was on, his medical stats would rise. That was the beginning of Nathan’s musical training. He has owned a cassette/CD player since that time and has sat beside me at the piano throughout his life. He has a large CD/DVD collection. Although non-verbal, Nathan participated in school choirs and loves participating in our church choir.”
Nathan, who likes a variety of music genre, describes his parents love and added, “My father is funny and understanding and my mother rocks; she is my light.”
WSUMC Pastor Kathy Ottinger stated, “Becky and Eric have created a culture of caring in our church. They go the extra mile to share opportunities with others. They bring music, joy, and vibrancy to children, adults, and their communities.”
When asked what inspired the WSUMC Music Camp, Becky responded, “In the spring of 2018, I felt God’s urging to do more for the children of Wall Street and Jeffersonville and the idea of a music camp was planted. We researched a faith-based musical for children that might fit a five-day camp plan. God paved the way for the camp to take place. Once our team was in place, camp became a collaborative effort.”
Becky and Eric didn’t want finance to prohibit attendance. They kept the cost low and church members provided additional support. This summer 55 people were involved, with 24 children from our community.
During camp, children learn a musical, play hand chimes, participate in games, learn to write music, experience hearing and playing musical instruments, study Biblical themes, and create artwork.
Eric stated, “The camp has a multi-generational appeal to the children who attend as campers, to the teens who serve as guides, to the adults who teach, design and build sets, provide nourishment, and to the family and friends who attend the performance night.”
Recently completing the 2022 Music Camp, Becky reflected, “I feel blessed, energized, and tired. I love working with children in this way and seeing the accomplishments they make in a short period of time. I feel part of a team that brought God’s love, compassion, understanding, and joy to a group of children that can now share their experiences with others.” Eric feels the camp is a “mountaintop experience.”
Bethany Morrill has known Becky and Eric since 2008. She stated, “Eric has the ability to work with people of all ages and encourages them to develop their musical abilities. He has worked with preschool children to residents at Westminster Village. Becky brings deliberation and thoughtfulness to her work and music, incorporating her faith into all areas of her life.”
With all of this activity in their lives, one might think WSUMC is their full-time work; however, you would be wrong. Becky is the Administrative Assistant to the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at Louisville Presbyterian Theological Seminary, and Administrative Assistant to Louisville Seminary Counseling Center.
Eric teaches class piano at Crosby Middle School and serves in multiple volunteer positions, including working with the Kentucky Music Educators Association, and serving on the WSUMC Ministry Council.
Sarah Saar, a member of WSUMC, described how the Timerdings have helped her young daughter, Payton. “They have given my daughter confidence, not only in her music, but in life by supporting and loving her. I have never known worship leaders who are as thoughtful and engaged.”
There is no doubt Becky and Eric Timerding have a passion for music; however, it is how they share their passion with the children in our community that makes them Southern Indiana Extra Milers.
Kindness Tip from the Extra Milers:
Eric: Everyone has passions and interests (talents). Our communities are full of opportunities for volunteerism. Seek out opportunities to use your talents to help others. Perhaps you like to read to children; help with scouting; sing or play an instrument; pick up trash on the side of the road. Whatever motivates you can be used to better the community in which you live.
Becky: Take that first step. A wise person once said to me, “It’s your idea. Go with it.” Take the first step, make the first call, ask the first question. You may be the answer to what is needed.
EXTRA MILER COLUMNS #104 AND BEYOND
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